Why don’t you accept compliments? He asked
Because it feels like I’m being lied to…
She said with a wobbly voice
Body shaming has been and still is among the many things that most of us go through. It’s seemingly never ending- if you have a body, you’ve probably felt that it’s been subject to commentary at some point.
We’ve all seen and heard people say it’s rude to call someone FAT…Yes it is but my focus today is on the people on the other side of the scale…the SKINNY population. I’ve lived for 23 years and in those years I’ve learned that calling someone fat and making any funny comment about someone for being fat is rude. I agree. But here is the thing; somehow society doesn’t think it’s rude to call someone skinny. And yes , at a point that was my thinking too. I’ve been skinny all my life; I’ve never gone above 50kg on a scale. I’ve been called skinny and been compared to the smallest things in life but that never got to me. I’ve had my fair share of insecurities but my body size was never one of them…which I am guessing is the reason I never once thought it was rude to be called skinny. Maybe I thought the fact that I was okay with me being skinny everyone else in the same category should be okay with it…which I am now only realizing it was selfish of me to think that way.
I’ve had people close to me; express how bad they felt every time a funny comment was made about their small bodies. I didn’t think it was an issue to be called skinny but then I saw how my friends were affected by the sleazy comments. I’ve watched some of them go out of their way trying to put on some weight because their legs were compared to chopsticks or because they are labeled Bony.
I am going to share with you stories of two people, both victims of skinny body shaming.One has found her way out and the other one is still struggling…but I will share both sides…for reasons known only to me, one identity will be hidden😊… Trust me, maybe most of us don’t see this but being called skinny is just as scarring as being called fat.
Anonymous shared that:
people always said things like you don’t eat or you are tiny.I would always have to alter my clothes coz I felt that they were big. Believe me, I felt really insecure about myself beause I felt that if I wore something tight, people would judge my look and stuff. I always felt uncomfortable around people. I don’t even wear whatever I want anymore because I’m scared people will say or think something about my tiny legs or my tiny bony arms. It was really tough and it still is, I don’t even like to miss a meal. I just learned to accept my tiny frame, embrace it and work towards getting my big body.
I gave up on gaining weight so many times.
Maybe you didn’t believe me then but I am sure by now you can tell those are words of Someone who is deeply wounded by what most of us think is not a big deal…
Then Meet Nali… The girl who clapped back with her revenge body…Today she posted a gorgeous picture of herself but it was her caption that got my most attention. She wrote:
The best feeling is when you get to a place of self-love and acceptance after struggling with insecurities for years. Daily reminders about how tiny I am, how I need to start eating as if I didn’t, hating shopping trips because I never found a size that fits me in the adult section. Cautiously eating calorie rich food and buying unnecessary food just to add a few pounds. Going to the gym for a season helped but what helped with the most peace of mind and happiness, the moment I stopped caring about the number on the scale and just lived I noticed most of my gains.
She further continued by saying this
Love yourself. You have 1 life. Live it to the fullest. If you can do something about your situation do it…but don’t obsess over it, just let loose and be happy with who you are… surround yourself with people that love you for you.
Well there you have it…I couldn’t have said it any better…So maybe let’s not make comments on how skinny someone is or how bony they are especially if you can see that they are insecure about their bodies…Take note that as much as we think it’s hurtful when we call people fat…the same thing applies to being called skinny.
It’s understandable to want to feel good about your body, just don’t put other body types down when you are doing it